Better Communication With Your Man

Better Communication With Your Man

Better Communication With Your Man

SO many relationships fail because they seem like
sometimes, we are expected to be mind readers.
Both the man and the woman feel they should
know stuffs about each other without asking, but
things do not work out that way in relationships.
How are we supposed to know how we
are feeling if we do not share these
feelings with each other? If there is one
thing that confounds most women the
most, it is how to communicate with
men.
It seems like every woman, no matter
how confident, reaches a point where
she does not know what to say, when to
say it, how to say it or even if it should
be said at all.
This happens to me a lot. And this
especially goes for men and their work.
Unless you are one of the few women
who work alongside their man, chances
are the average workday is the longest
amount of time where you simply do not
know what he is doing.
You would like to ask him about it and
show your support, but sometimes it
seems like he closes up tighter than a
clam the moment his work is mentioned.
Other times, he is clearly stressed about
work, but unlike we women, he does not
think he will feel better by just venting
about it.
Women like to keep lines of
communication open between them and
their partners, but at the same time, we
want to respect what seems like his
desire to keep it to himself.
Let me start out by reminding you of two
things about men:
*A man’s job is very important to his
self-esteem. Say what you want about
evolving gender roles. For a man, being
a breadwinner, even if the bread is only
for him, is one of the things that makes
him feel like a man.
What this means for you is that while he
is probably happier than he has been in
a while, he also may be more focused
than he has been in a while. And that
means he may not have time for you.
Why is that? Because of the second thing:
*Men are not good at multi-tasking. We
women are so incredibly adept at
multitasking that we forget that men are
really just plain bad at it.
So, while he may not be contacting you,
chances are it is not because he suddenly
finds you unattractive; it is because he is
all about the job right now.
That being said, there is no reason why
you cannot drop a call or a text to let
him know you are thinking about him
and wish him well.
More than just a possible date, he is a
human being and everyone loves to
know that someone is rooting for them.
The main thing is to be supportive! You
can ask him how the job is going, too. No
harm in that. But if you feel like he is not
very comfortable talking to you about it,
then it is best not to push the issue,
again, wish him well and wait for him to
bring up the topic. In the meantime,
though, keep your options open by
meeting and dating other men, just so
that he knows he has not “won” you just
yet! This advice is not only for men and
their jobs, it is also for women who are
already in long-term relationships and it
goes for other things that may be
occupying your man at the moment.
As i said earlier, men do not multitask.
So, it is wise to choose the right time and
place to bring up something you want to
talk about, but with a little patience and
observation, you can, and it is better for
the both of you in the long run.
As far as subject matter, jobs really are a
sticky territory for men.